"And you respond, "I think we could definitely make that work."To which she concludes, "It's tempting, but we needs to be friends first."Ah yes, another example of young ladies thinking that have discovered some full-proof system that allows them to deflect pretenders from contenders. First let's talk about "Friends Before Dating" as a concept.
As a whole, what these two groups actually understand about the formation of relationships, bonding, etc, can be summed up in a high-gloss magazine.
Those magazines are well known for having inaccurate information, and slanted polls. Now, before I go further, I do know of, and realize this is not true of all ladies in these age ranges.
Yet, for some reason these young ladies believe it. There are ladies in this group that more or less have their life together, and are able to be productive. This is an indictment of the amount of group think that members of these age ranges allow.
Inevitably, the two people have to separate and stop communication for several months at a minimum before they can resume their friendship.
FBD (I'm giving you all a new acronym, I know) is a failure! This concept is creeping into all facets of relationships and ruining people's ability to date, and create meaningful, loving relationships, including those that are based in friendship.
Here's why I put the blame of this concept onto young ladies.
Young ladies (Age 15-18 and 19-24) are some of the most insecure people I have ever met as a whole.
So, you're out with some friends, you see a girl that you've been introduced to months prior.
She's with some friends of hers, you've had conversations before, they've gone well, there's obviously chemistry between the two of you, and you both get those Junior High smiles when you look at each other.