Skip the weather report and dive into a truly interesting conversation together.
Do you and your honey chit chat about the weather and random details of your work day ... A study in claims that people are happier when they spend more time discussing meaningful topics than engaging in small talk.
Seventy-nine college students had their conversations recorded and analyzed by researchers, who distinguished between chit-chat about the food or the weather from discussions about philosophy, education, or religion.
Here are 10 topics super happy couples regularly talk about: 1.
Embarrassing moments If you can't share the awkward moments that occurred throughout high school with your partner, you can you tell them to?
Don't be afraid to broach the subject, if you haven't already. Childhood memories make for fun conversations, but they can also lend insight into how your guy became the person he is today. Past relationships This is a touchy one because no one wants to hear their true love spouting sonnets about an ex.
We wouldn't be surprised if his stories are more horrifying (and hilarious) than yours. Political viewpoints How do you really feel about the next election or that new law that passed? There is, of course, a difference between longing for (or being bitter over) the past and simply acknowledging what happened.
You don't have to agree with each other, although it would certainly help. In being vulnerable, you risk judgment, but more importantly, you chance finally being understood. Your childhoods Ask your partner what he or she was like as a kid. With enough practice, seasoned, happy couples learn how to address why past relationships ended without inadvertently comparing their current partner to an old flame. Family ties Knowing a person's upbringing and relationship with his or her parents (or siblings) is paramount to understanding his current attitude toward family. Current events In the age of information overload, it's nearly impossible to stay up-to-date on everything going on around us.
A good relationship allows both parties to discuss their own philosophies without taking the opposing viewpoints personally. Fears and insecurities By fears, we don't mean your phobia of earthworms. If you're even slightly contemplating a future with this person, it helps to ask how well he gets along with his family. Why is he closer to his sisters than to his brothers? Here's where teamwork comes into play: Ask your partner about his interests, be they economics or regional politics, and see if you can't learn a thing or two about them.
We're talking about things that make you wake up with gray hairs. Who knows, maybe you'll help him develop an interest in international affairs or science news. TV and movies Compared to politics and personal fears, entertainment might seem pretty shallow, but Dr. Someone who desires growth and is not afraid of the unknown is surely dynamic enough to deserve you.
they can talk deeply, or whether they talk deeply because they are happy.
Either way, we started thinking about how important "real conversation" is in relationships.
One of the perks of being in a committed relationship is the ability to discuss subjects you likely avoided during the early stages of dating.
So pour yourselves a drink, cozy up on the sofa and have yourselves a good heart-to-heart chat.