Smart men, to me, were always attractive, no matter what they looked like. I went to a Jewish university for undergrad and now a masters, where I also work in alumni relations - so I hear it all the time. For the last 18 months or so, I've been attending various Jewish singles and networking mixers in Chicago, not to mention other functions in shuls (several in the Lakeview neighborhood) and Chabad houses (in the Bucktown and Lincoln Park neighborhoods).So, get to know people without thinking, "Is she pretty enough? " If there's still no attraction there, she might have a friend or sister that interests you. And frankly, those complaining are the type that I would complain about. My observations during so many of these events - and I did go in with the best intentions, with an open mind, dressed well, a little nervous, a little excited, once in a while with a friend - is for the most part, there were a lot of homely girls without the best personalities.I felt some, really too many were cliquish and already had their group of friends, that they were there just to hang out, eat free food at the Sushi Shabats or shuls, etc.
I have also used jdate for...maybe 6 months and had nothing but negative or mediocore experiences.
No relationships, no real lasting friendships..disappointment and frankly boredom.
On a superficial level, I guess the girl being skinny or at least lean is very important, perhaps too important.
Okay, that sounds mean (I suppose I could rewrite this post for the sake of diplomacy...nah), but if you're a Jewish guy in the area (and perhaps other cities), am I that far off? :-)Well, someone really can't help if they are short or have less than beautiful features, so.....
Maybe try some of the online Jewish dating websites? Speaking as a woman who is a quintessential matchmaker - my advice is to go to one or two shuls regularly.
You'll meet lots of single, presumably devout girls that way. As a female who was considered by many to be conventionally attractive in my younger years, men that were talking to me just based on if they liked how I looked were not attractive to me.I enjoyed people that looked past the outside and got to know me as a person first.Please register to participate in our discussions with 1.5 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. I go to quite a few Jewish single's mixers, chabad houses, even shuls for the sake of dating Jewish (it's not something that mattered to me before, but I'd like to attempt it for the sake of a future family). Frankly, there are so few attractive Jewish girls at these events that it's almost a parody of a bad sitcom.I mean, no offense to any Jewish girls from Chicago reading this post, but it's like an epidemic of overweight, blotchy, short, bad nosed, cliquish, yadda yadda. These girls aren't all unattractive, you're just not attracted to them.