Incapable of repelling sexual advances due to being “inhibited about their sexuality” and a “submissive nature in the bedroom”, Stephanie describes Chinese women as Shanghai’s renewable resource that keeps replenishing the carnal needs of its dating pool, “ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex”.If part of the problem is that Chinese women aren’t able to say “no”, the other half is that Chinese men aren’t able to ask the question.
She uses this opportunity to complain about both men and women from China and abroad, implicating everyone for their part in contributing to her plight.
Stephanie begins by establishing the first rule to learn about dating in Shanghai: Expat men are “spoiled by choice” by “a frenzy of dating as many local women as they possibly can with absolutely no commitment to any of them”.
Such an impossible situation is made possible by Chinese women who aren’t able to say “no” when it comes to expat men.
Even though they have the edge on Caucausian women with their “slender, pliable figures”, the beauty of Chinese becomes a disadvantage when it comes to foreign men who are “more blunt about what they want than the average local fellows”.
And even if a female expat is able to find a Chinese man for a romantic relationship, her “Mr. ” And yet, it seems what Stephanie truly desires aren’t arms to hold her during cold nights.
She is looking for an end to the status quo that has marginalized expat women in Shanghai: In turn, it would also be interesting to watch Western men finally get a reality check and discover that most of them are hardly “God’s gift to women” and could never get this much action back in their home countries.
Perhaps Stephanie needs to raise the plight of expat women in China by taking expat men down a peg.
For a restless soul looking for answers, China can serve as another another rung up the corporate ladder or a fresh start.
One thing it’s not, according to one female expat, is an ideal place for a western woman to find romance.