Well, I always seem to see girls saying I won't date so and so because he isn't a virgin, however I hardly ever see guys say this.
I just wanted to know some of the resoning behind this.
Plus I know if a guy really loved me then it would be special regardless of whether or not he had had sex before, and I wouldn't feel insecure about that.[/b]Amen, sister. I hate that someone is ruled out from dating just because they have made mistakes in their life. I would date them long enough to find out that they aren't a virgin...actually I have been wondering about that lately, how you go about finding out if they are one without it being awkward.
[take me for example.] I've dated non-virgins twice, now, and I don't see anything wrong with it, though, i'm going to have to change my standards, because they both wanted to be sexually active. I've been with the same guy since I was 14 so it wasn't an issue then. I don't want someone more experienced than me lol.
My standards are a tad higher, but i'm not going to rule out someone just because they have had sex. I'm through accepting limitsbecause someone says they're so.
I mean, if he has repented and vowed not to do it again [like myself], I'm perfectly fine with dating him. We say rude and ugly stuff daily that can't be taken back, so, i don't see how it is any different. Too long I've been afraid oflosing love I guess I've lost.
So anyways, I would just like people to talk about why or why not they would date a non-virgin.
Personally it wouldn't matter to me so long as they had repented.
To me sex is not what makes a relationship and it isn't something I hold above everything else when it comes to marriage so it wouldn't be a deal breaker to me.
Plus I know if a guy really loved me then it would be special regardless of whether or not he had had sex before, and I wouldn't feel insecure about that.
Kiss me goodbye, I'm defying gravityand you can't pull me down.
I don't want to date someone who's just sleeping around, or has a history of just being a prostitute, but it would be stupid to demand someone who will overlook my faults and me not forgive them for theirs.
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.