Dear Friendship Doctor, I have a best friend who is like a sister.Well she stopped talking to me after I tried to be honest with her about wanting to go out with her ex.
I don’t want to lose my friendship with her cause she was my like a sister but what should I do because I’m already with the guy.
Am I the bad person for doing what I did even though I was honest? Signed, Ellie Dear Ellie, Being honest about wanting to date your friend’s ex was better than going behind her back but you haven’t mentioned whether or not she gave you the go ahead once you told her.
If you didn’t want to jeopardize the friendship, you should have her—and respected her wishes.
Even if she did give you the go ahead, she still may have felt hurt because her emotions were still raw after the breakup.
If she truly wants her ex out of her life, she can’t very well do that if he is dating her close friend.
It seems like you chose a relationship with him over her, and there isn’t any going back.
The ball is in her court in terms of whether she wants to remain friends with you.
I wouldn’t characterize you as a bad person but you will have to live with the consequences of the decision you made.
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