• Give your children time to adjust to their new situation.Sometimes parents try to take care of their own feelings of loss by dating shortly after beginning to live apart, but this is one of those times when considering the needs of your children should be a priority.
• Be honest with your children about when you are getting ready to start dating. Don’t give your children control over when you start to venture into that world, but in general, let them know your intentions and ask for their feelings about it.
• Let your children know that your new relationship will not take time away from them.
Meet new people when they are with their other parent.
Children have many feelings about their parents’ divorce. For children, there is often a strong desire for a reconciliation between you and their other parent.
Your children may perceive a new person in your life as someone who could not only interrupt that reconciliation, but interfere with your time with your them as well.
Below are some general considerations for how to introduce a new significant relationship to your children.This is not an exhaustive list and cannot cover all the possible variables that may be true about your life.Your relationship with your children’s other parent has ended. Perhaps you have felt some combination of hurt, anger, depression, relief, guilt, uncertainty, or hopefulness.Maybe you’ve taken the time to address your feelings and are ready to think about getting into a new relationship, or maybe you left your relationship in order to begin again with a new partner.It was not an easy decision to leave and change the life your children grew up with.There have been many logistical issues and emotions to deal with as you have organized new living arrangements. They may worry that, if their parents can stop loving each other, then how hard would it be for either parent to stop loving them?