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You see this person every day, in his or her element, doing exceptional work—pretty soon, that rational voice in your head gets quieter and quieter and the emotions become impossible to ignore.
What should you do (besides, you know, check the dating policies in your employee handbook)?
If you’re finding yourself contemplating a workplace romance you’re not sure you should pursue, here are four things to keep in mind.
There are so many ways to release pent-up emotions. They’re dangerous, because you’re far more likely to do unhealthy and inappropriate things when you’re already feeling guilty. Having a workplace crush can be fun, exciting—and even productive!
Guilt distorts our ability to think clearly, leading to thoughts like: “What the heck, I’ve already made a mess of everything by falling in love with my married boss (even though no one knows), so I might as well pursue this.” But remember, again: You are in charge. You might find yourself dressing more sharply, speaking up in meetings more readily, contributing to projects in a bigger way—all because you like the way that special someone’s face lights up when you’ve done a great job.
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And with those happy sparks in your heart, you can shift into a positive frame of mind—one that will allow you to calmly consider the pros and cons of starting a relationship with your co-worker. Suzanne Gelb is a psychologist, life coach and attorney.
It’s okay to like someone—anyone, anywhere, any place.
But liking someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to act on those feelings.