Why is it that Americans feel the need to almost apologize when they are looking for someone?They feel the need to qualify things with statements like ‘ I am not desperate’ . Many Americans behave like if you do not have a boyfriend or girlfriend that looks like someone out of a J. If you date someone, but they are not your one and only, that is messed up.
Yes being single, lonely and depressed is a good thing. American girls, on the other hand, would give you a look like you are some freak and all kind of weird vibes after that.
Take it as a sign or a call to action in American speak. See what happens is many American girls are serial monogamous daters until their 30s for this reason. American girls like this are horrible to date if you ask me. This is how you are supposed to feel when you do not have your other half. I teach English one on one and I will tell you what I learned.
It makes us desperate enough to look outside ourselves for someone to rescue and save our lives in every sense of the word. Then when they are in their 30s they want to find this last hope guy. Girls should be desperate and lonely in their 20s, We guys are. And like the Poet Rilke says Love is the work for which all other work is but preparation. To be alone feels like 100, no 1000 cold daggers stabbing you deep in your heart. This is nature tell you to go out there and find your other half. I talk to Eastern European girls who have their Ph D’s and are super successful directors of large companies.
If you are single and not desperate and not looking that is totally messed up. Here is the full quote: For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been given to us, the ultimate, the final problem and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. You feel this most depressed at night or when then sun goes down, around holidays in the winter, basically most of the time. Since I teach them English I get to talk with many girl one on one about things like relationships and love as it is often brought up in conversation. Don’t you want some leggy super hot girl, and I mean real beauty like on a magazine cover, looking into your eyes with her swollen soft lips, whispering in a somewhat depressed, but soft alluring voice ”I need you, I am so lonely and I desperately need you’.
You cannot admit you want this or you are single and lonely because if you do you are kind of a old fashion loser.
For example in America, if a gal and a guy meet, the girls often say, ‘OK I will meet you, but lets not call it a date’.
Let me tell you when two single people of the opposite sex meet, even for coffee, it is a date.
If you are single and say, ‘I do not need someone to make me happy’. They all tell me, all of them, they want to find their other half so they can be in love. It is not some Gothic male fantasy, this is reality if you are not in the USA.
They would take care of him and treat him like a king. They like it is a man is interested in them and hope maybe he will ask her out to see if they are their other half. Contrast that with the American girl dating model of her telling you that she is a strong women and does not need a man. Then stop playing games with your dating life and be honest with yourself. Look through my site and all the recommendations I make for dating sites in different countries. Important: do not leave this site without checking out my specific recommendations I have in my posts.
They tell me they are lonely and desperate and do anything to find their man. Geez Louise, you hook up and marry with some American girl with even slightly feminist tendencies, then, all you will have in your life is to wait for is the sweet kiss of death to set you free. What if you are single you are looking for love and you are lonely and you are desperate and hopefully mildly depressed? If you can admit this to yourself, then maybe you will humble yourself , and take action to find the person who you are supposed to be with.
When they get married they want to please their man in the bedroom, not thinking about themselves. America on the other hand as such a twisted dating dynamic. Not what has been programmed in your about career or success or keeping up with the Jones. If you can not find them in the USA, look in other countries.