The bottom line is that if you think your past love might be holding you back, he or she probably is.
When you’re not really in the best place emotionally, dating burnout is bound to happen much quicker and with more force.
Some of the top criteria to look for include: Unresolved past issues.
Past issues can prevent you from moving forward in your love life because you’re not able — or ready– to let go of a past relationship.
It might be that you still have feelings for an ex, or are still in contact with them, and are having trouble picturing yourself with someone new.
To help identify unhealthy patterns, write out a timeline of several past relationships. Quite the contrary; you can have acceptance while still working hard to meet a great potential partner.
Write down common characteristics of those partners, why you broke up, common feelings that you had around them. Do you feel good about what you have to offer, and clear about what you need in life to feel fulfilled? Acceptance, instead, has to do with acknowledging your life as it is right now.
As you look over your relationships, you may see patterns emerging. It’s essential to feel secure in your sense of self, and not to feel that you have to apologize for who you are. Plus, you are more likely to attract good potential mates when you feel worthy of receiving love from someone you would admire and respect. What if you’ve moved on from your past, you’ve broken free of unhealthy patterns, and you’re truly ready for love? It means accepting that right now, for whatever reason, you haven’t found the right person.
The outcry comes from my clients, from readers who respond to my dating blogs, and from close friends who are dating. It’s hard, it’s not always fun, and it can be exhausting.
I myself had the outcry during my long tenure as a single person. The good news is that you are not alone or abnormal in feeling discouraged; it’s actually normal and often is part of the process.
The next piece of good news is that there are several ways to deal with dating burnout.
The first task is to ask yourself if you’re truly in a good place to be dating.