READ: The Search for the Perfect Age to Have Kids There's also the issuing of aging. You may be at the height of your career, while your partner is nearing retirement." Aside from dealing with personal issues within the relationship, couples with notable age differences also have to face the challenges of introducing their partner to friends, family and social circles.
In fact, Adler says, “both [our] male and female clients typically seek matches within a 10–15 year age range of themselves.” But can a relationship where two people are 10 or 15 (or more) years apart really work out in the long-term, once the novelty has worn off?
It’s not likely, according to a study out of Emory University that finds the larger the age gap, the more likely a marriage will end in divorce.
“You really have to be crystal clear about your hopes, dreams, and desires from the start,” says marriage and family therapist Dr. “A big issue for couples with a big age gap is mismatched life experiences and goals around marriage, children, lifestyle and freedom.” For example, the younger woman in the relationship may desire children in the future.
But if the significantly older man has "been there, done that," he may not be interested in having more kids. "The bigger the age gap, the more you need to consider what natural aging brings.
They say age is just a number when it comes to love, and it’s more evident today that people don’t focus on age gaps in relationships as much as they used to.
Even those negative stigmas associated with an older man dating a younger girl, or an older woman and a younger man, have dissipated.It really boils down to compatibility, lifestyle, goals, vitality, and interests.READ: 10 Reasons a Man Might Prefer an Older Woman in the Bedroom Barbie Adler, the founder and president of Selective Search, says it’s not so much about the age as it is about the maturity level.But while the Emory study shows that people are better off dating within their age group, it's more important to be with someone you mesh well with, the experts say.“When you’re living the life you love, you want someone who can contribute to the relationship in a way that encourages support and growth," says Adler.For most people, having a sexual or romantic relationship with someone way older or younger than you is awkward.