After all, running away from someone whom you profess to be crazy about is hardly normal and is not a healthy way to build the foundations of your relationship!Because they blow hot, you end up wondering what you’ve done to make them stop.Because they blow hot, when they blow cold you don’t acknowledge what that means, and instead focus on the fact that you know that they’re capable of blowing hot.
So you walk away and they keep calling you periodically, emailing, and texting, never quite getting out of your life. They’re like dogs in mangers…they’re not sure they want you but they don’t want anyone else to have you so they hog up your life and keep you as an option whilst trying to ensure that you think of them as your only option.
And occasionally, they are so overwhelmed with love that it scares the crap out of them...
But that is a rarity and their behaviour shows that they have issues that are counterproductive to having a healthy relationship.
Judging by the amount of interest in emotionally unavailable men, it is clear that most women have had some experience of being with a guy that blows hot and cold.
This inconsistent behaviour means that as long as you’re with him, you are thrown into a cycle of inconsistency as you deal with the drama, the highs and lows, and the uncertainty. Men that turn on the hot and cold tap of attention have limited attention spans.
If you’re with a man who is emotionally unavailable (Mr Unavailable), it is rarely a good indicator of things to come. They are quick out the gate in hot pursuit but as soon as they feel like they don’t have to chase anymore, you lose your shiny exterior.
There is no incentive for them to throw all of their energy at you.
They are too cowardly to admit that they are not ready for a relationship.
Instead they just p*ss off and withdraw and then blow hot when you kick up a fuss about their poor behaviour…or they need some sex or attention. There are some guys out there that like nothing more than to play cat and mouse with you.