I really didn’t plan on beating this marriage thing to death, but there have been a spate of articles about marriage recently.
Click here to read the article if you have a NYT subscription. I think there are a lot of dynamics at play, but considering that the older men get, the younger the age of the women they want to date and marry, it makes sense that there would be fewer (eligible) men available to marry older women.
I appreciated this article shining a light on the implications of singleness for women as they age.
From my standpoint (and it is an obviously subjective perspective), there are certain intolerable situations within a marriage, the top being infidelity, abuse and financial recklessness.
My thought is that if women are becoming single at such a vulnerable time in their lives, then the circumstances leading up to those actions must be fairly significant.
I agree wholeheartedly that it’s better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.
Just don’t forget who’s choosing the bad relationship – you.
Which means that you can choose a good relationship and a good marriage when you’re good and ready.
You don’t have to opt out of it for life as so many of these women in the NYT article do. What I got out of the article is that older women are not so much choosing to be single as they just are becoming single.
It angers me that many of the women mentioned had or were raising children, but didn’t have a pension or retirement for themselves.