The no-nos of picking up women in bars are fairly obvious. Online dating, on the other hand, is a bit more nuanced. And don’t stare at her cleavage while she’s talking (or at least don’t get caught doing it).In fact, it just may be easier to repel a potential partner virtually than it is in person.
Be more selective and less so at the same time: Reach out to women who may not at first seem like your "type" as well as those who do.
In 2000, Brenda Allison graduated from law school and moved to Chicago.
There, she found a supportive group of friends, an apartment within walking distance of the city's hottest spots..absolutely no time to date.
"I'm a lawyer, and it's a job that takes up a lot of time," she says.
You want to up your odds and shoot for the stars—or, rather the girl who's out of your league.
But new research from Binghamton University says you're being too self-centered and aggressive.Males tend to focus on their own interests, whereas women are more conscious of who they're reaching out to—especially when it comes to attractiveness.Now, we're not saying you shouldn't talk to a knockout; but men tend to send a lot of messages to female users and not get many responses in return, the researchers found."I didn't know how I was going to meet someone, especially when with what little free time I had I wanted to spend it with my friends." Heeding advice from friends living in New York City, Allison turned to the Internet."There weren't a lot of people using the Internet to date back then," she says."I had to go to Kinko's and scan in a picture of myself for my profile." Soon after that, she was on a date.