(We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four).
As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.
If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date.
Now that you have access to the Dating with Dignity’s Men’s Advice Column (Starting with these seven dating tips for women from men! Don’t let a man become the center of your universe.
If you make a man your whole life, he’s going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered!
Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic “you” who has her own interests and passions who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing.
(so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one).
Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone.
He’s going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend.
So even though it’s great to let a new guy know where you are in your life or about your dating goals, take the time to get to know him before you decide.
Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.” Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends.
Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc.