We slowly began doing fun kids things with just the four of us.We waited another four months before we showed any affection (hand holding, kissing) in front of them.After that, we slowly started holding hands and told the kids he was my boyfriend.
You finally meet someone you really, really like and want to introduce him to your kids. It's the respectful thing to do if you have a good relationship with him. Here are a few ground rules for introducing a new love to your children.1. You should introduce him as a friend and give your children the chance to get to know your guy in a fun, relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. One Mom, One Dad : Reassure your children that they only have one mom and one dad. I told my children this a few months after I introduced my then boyfriend to them.
You don’t want to introduce someone and one month later have to explain to your children why they don’t see "Mike" anymore. Group Setting: Have the first five meetings in a group setting.
Before you even think about introducing your children to your new boyfriend, you need to have been dating for at least six months. It takes at least six months to begin to really know a person.
You don’t want that to happen again and you certainly don’t want your children to go through that again.
A group setting allows children to feel non-threatened. Go Slowly: Remember, you might be in love, but your children need time to get used to a new situation. My son actually liked my boyfriend so much he wanted to call him dad.
It's best not to show affection during these first five meetings. I had to take him aside and say, “I am so glad you like him!
But you only have one mom and one dad.” He was only five years old, so I kept it age appropriate.5.
Rules for the New Family : As you begin to settle in together as a new group, it’s important for you to discuss how it plays out with your new partner.
Have a long talk about expectations, discipline, money, education and anything else you might deal with. You want your children to be happy in this new environment.